Know how all of us are selfish but try our best to prove otherwise? How we grimace every time the "menacing" emotion is displayed (by someone else of course) or even discussed. I don't know how to say this without sounding like a total prick. But here it is anyway. We are all selfish and will continue to be unless we transmute to something else. Why? Because man is made that way and so it’s OK to be that way. It is only normal to look out for yourself.
Let me explain. Remember that time when you were newly married and trying to wrap your head around the fact that, well, that you were MARRIED? or When you got your first job and felt like you were a misfit and will never make it? or That time when you were trying hard to keep your new born alive?
And then do you remember that person (you thought was from a parallel universe) complain and whine about how you aren't keeping in touch, how you have become anti social, how you just don't care and how you are this close to growing a pair of horns and a tail for good measure?
As we grow older we have added responsibilities and our priorities change. But being judged doesn’t. Now everyone goes through these situations and handles it like anyone else would i.e. by minding their own business and trying to get things sorted. But if the person isn't in the situation you are in and not in your shoes he/she just won’t see it. So that’s when inadvertently the complaints begin.
However maturity presents a certain complacency to “what others think and say” because hopefully by then you will know that everyone has their own reasons and more importantly you can’t please everyone. It is as much your job to figure out your life as it is for the other person to play his part, which right then seems to be to take offence.
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